Mompreneur Tale: Volume 2

It’s been a while since my last, an inaugural, Mompreneur Tale post. What I’m about to tell you happened a few weeks ago but it’s a great tale to tell, nonetheless.

Baby Girl, thankfully, is still little enough to be able to tag along with me to meetings sometimes. She’s content in her stroller and takes a bottle easily – this makes things easy when childcare plans don’t always pan out.

I had an afternoon of planned site visits with a mother-of-the-bride. Now, I’ll stop here for a moment. I always PREFER to be childless when meeting with clients for the sake of professionalism, no distractions, etc. But, in this case, I just didn’t have a choice. Plus, I’ve worked with this mother-of-the-bride before on her other daughter’s wedding a couple of years ago and she’s just wonderful. She loved having Baby Girl tag along.

I should also note that Baby Girl is to the point where she only poops once every 2-3 days. Furthermore, I can’t ever smell it and she doesn’t really have any typical “baby poop behavior” to alert me that a diaper change is in order LOL. Do you see where I’m going with this? Of course you do. I’ll continue…

Through 4 venues and car rides in between, Baby Girl stayed in her car seat and was just clicked in and out of her car base and stroller. I squeezed in a bottle feeding during this outing too. At the very end of our last site visit I decided to give her a little break from the car seat so I pick her up. Immediately, I felt it: poop blow out!!! It was on her shirt. It was on her pants. It was now on my arm.

Now I did what any professional woman would do in this scenario. I pretended the poop wasn’t there and I held her in a way that nobody could see the poop. So, while my client and the venue coordinator fawned over Baby Girl’s cuteness I was fiercely and speedily working out a plan in my head to get her back into her car seat without anybody seeing the poop all over her back side or the poop on my arm for that matter. Don’t ask me how I did it. I’m not even sure, if I’m being honest. But, somehow, I did it.

I finally ended up back at my car in the parking lot. My client was standing right there as we were discussing some details. I had no choice…Baby Girl needed a diaper change…BADLY!! I apologized to my client for having to do this but I was going to have to change this nasty diaper in front of her while we talk. She, of course, was just precious and totally understanding. After all, she is a mom herself 🙂

This diaper, you guys!! Let’s just say I kept my cool but I was going through an obscene amount of baby wipes and I had to take off all her clothes. It was bad. Like, really bad! All the while, I’m talking caterers and color scheming over my shoulder with my client.

This was just…one of those days!

To top it all off, Baby Girl had to ride home in the buff. At least her pretty headband managed to not get any poop on it. At least there’s that.

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This was a Mompreneur Tale for the books! I’m just thankful for wonderful clients who love having my babies around.

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

Finding My Way Back…

I’ve been on “maternity leave” for almost 10 weeks now. I put the term maternity leave in quotations because being an entrepreneur doesn’t really grant you all of the perks that one might want or expect. Business has continued, thanks to my amazing team!! But, I still have to stay on top of the office stuff like payroll, emails, balancing the business account, etc. all while taking care of 2 kids under 2.

This weekend, I’ll be back to work at a wedding. While I’m not working the whole day because my staff has EVERYTHING covered, the few hours I’ll be on-site requires quite a bit of planning. Primarily, my extreme hatred of pumping means I’m working my hours around Baby Girl’s feeding times – thank goodness for an eating schedule that keeps me sane!!!!

So, I’ll pump once before I leave the house so The Husband will have a bottle to feed her while I’m gone and I’ll be back by the time she’s due to eat again. I’ll help with dinner and bedtime and then I’ll go back to the wedding to work a few hours during the reception.

Yes – I hate pumping! Although, I’ve somehow still ended up with over 600oz of pumped milk in my freezer. LOL

I’m really excited about this wedding. It’s a bride I’ve been working with for over a year. She and her mom were so gracious and understanding when I found out I was pregnant late last summer. My due date meant I would not be able to commit to being available for their wedding day and I’d have to hand off the planning torch to one of my staff to take over once baby came. They were so great about the whole arrangement and things have gone so well. My Associate Consultant, Whitney, has just killed it!!! So many fun things in store for this wedding and I’m so excited it’s going to work out for me to be there at least for the few hours that I can to see everything come together.

I’d like to dream more about this wedding at the moment but I can’t because Little Man is desperate to go play outside and I’ve got laundry to fold. How can I do both at the same time, you might say? Well, that’s because I have no shame folding my laundry on the driveway…underwear and all. Multitasking at it’s finest.

I also need to meal plan for the week and find time to get to the grocery store today. But that will have to come later…

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

World’s Okayest Mom

This is how I felt for the past 2 weeks. I’ve been so busy keeping up with clients that I felt like I was barely keeping up with motherhood. And forget about domestic responsibilities – thankfully The Husband managed several loads of laundry last weekend while I was working a big wedding.

Last week was so busy with drop-ins at the wedding venue that I was unable to plan them or estimate how long they’d take, thereby, planning for childcare was next to impossible. So, I deemed it simplest to just take Little Man along. The venue staff came to know me as the lady with the baby on her chest because I was wearing him in the Ergo for hours on end while I was there.

And, now that Little Man is officially mobile, he has limited interest in being confined to his playpen or the jumper while I’m working in the office. So, much of my time in the office last week looked like this…

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This is what “Mom, I’m done bouncing up and down in the same spot…Okay, son, for the love, I just need to finish this email so sit here on the ground and play with some toys that are not age appropriate as long as it keeps you quiet for 2 more minutes!!” looks like.

I survived and this week is much less chaotic so I’m trying to earn back some momma points by getting in a lot more Momma + Little Man quality time.

For fun here’s a pic from my wedding last weekend. The groom is one of the coaches for the Philadelphia Eagles so the mascot partied with the guests at the reception. This picture was moments before Swoop entered the reception and surprised the guests! My job really IS fun even though it keeps my plate full!!

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Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

Stuck in the Middle

You know that painful spot? The one between the rock and the hard place? That’s where I’m at right now.

If I had a nickel for every person who has contacted me since the SCOTUS ruling last week to inquire about how it might affect my business….

I don’t think I’ve ever felt so torn on an issue. An issue that is obviously a critical one for me as a Christian. But at the same time is an issue that has the potential to drastically effect my business…my livelihood.

I heard a great message on Sunday morning from my Pastor on this issue. A message that I agreed with 100% on every single point. I want to stand up for my Christian values and declare what I believe to be true and right – I have a right as an American to do that. I’m so thankful for that right to speak my peace. On that same note, I have the right as a business owner to decide how I want to operate my business. The unfortunate thing is that we have already begun to see this right challenged among wedding professionals – long before the official SCOTUS ruling.

I love weddings. I love seeing couples in love. I love being a part of a couples’ most beautiful day. I love marriage. Therefore, I love what I do. But, I have Christian values that pull me in a specific direction on this issue. But, what risk am I taking by making it an official policy of my business to not take same-sex clients? I don’t know. And the part of me that doesn’t want to find out sets on one shoulder while on the other shoulder rests my conscience.

It would be a heck of a lot easier to take a stance on this issue if I wasn’t in the wedding industry. But I am. I’m still trying to determine if this season of our culture coincides with me being in business out of pure coincidence or divine appointment. And if it’s divine appointment then what am I to do? Am I supposed to stand up, declare my Christian stance and refuse same-sex business and risk losing my business? Or am I supposed to welcome all, judge not and go on with business as usual and, potentially, see an increase in business?

Too many questions left unanswered at the moment. I just don’t know. So, I’m waiting on the Lord. I wish I had a more profound response to all of these questions. But, I just don’t right now.

Here’s what I do know….

My heart hurts! Not just for the predicament I’m in but for my country as a whole. I grieve this decision – not just the SCOTUS decision but, also, the decision I have to make in regards to my business. I grieve. Not because I hate homosexuals. I don’t. Not because I think all homosexuals go to hell. I don’t. I grieve for the heaviness of such a decision being left in the hands of 9 (NINE!!!!) people. 9 people who made a decision for the entire nation. A decision that, in turn, will have a direct effect on my business in the months and years to come. A decision that has backed me into a corner where I’m damned if I do and damned if I don’t. Now, that’s not to say that I think little ol’ me in Oklahoma should carry the full weight of such a decision for the country. I’m just one person. But, I would have loved to have had a vote on the issue. I would have appreciated being able to voice my opinion on a ballot at my local polling place. However, I understand that’s just not how our system of government works in cases like this and I respect our judicial system.

So, for now, all I can do is pray and ask for His guidance.

I don’t know what kind of feedback, if any, I’ll get on this post. But if anybody wishes to speak against my stance on this I simply make a plea that you keep it polite. I have no desire to create division or lose friends over this. No such issue or debate should cause such an unfortunate event as ending friendships.

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

When the Balance is Off

I had a near mompreneur breakdown on Saturday! Erica Weddings had 3 weddings this past weekend. My particular wedding was one of the most difficult weddings I had had in quite some time. For no reason really other than it was just a lot of details to manage. Plus, it was a Nigerian wedding which I had never done before so there was some added pressure and stress in that regard since there were so many elements that were completely new to me. On that note, I had spent many, many hours in the days leading up to the wedding working to prepare. More than I usually do.

Going in to Saturday I was already operating on a Little Man deficit – i.e. I had spent more time away from him over the previous 2 days than I had spent with him. So, about mid- Saturday, it hit me! I missed him like crazy and I knew I wouldn’t see him until Sunday morning. I texted The Husband and told him that I missed Little Man so much that I thought I could cry.

It’s moments like those that make me question my entire working mom status. Was the 16 hours on my feet (without eating and barely drinking anything, mind you), away from my husband and child, worth it? I got caught up in that for a bit but was forced to move on as the wedding moved on.

I don’t think those moments will ever stop coming. They are bound to hit me from time to time. And I keep reminding myself that this particular wedding was an exception to the rule. I don’t typically have to work 16 hours on a Saturday for my usual clientele.

So, Sunday and Monday was all about catching up on my rest and catching up on time with Little Man. We did our usual routine of a Sunday afternoon nap together. It’s pretty much the only time he’ll get somewhat snuggly with me and I just love it!

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And, as far as Monday, I did something I haven’t done in a very long time: I didn’t do a shred of work ALL DAY LONG!!! It meant a bigger to-do list for today but it was worth it.

It all comes back to that work vs. personal life balance that I’ve talked about before. I had let the temporary “imbalance” get to me. It takes a constant conscious effort to make it all work.

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

Sing-a-Long Time

My head is currently about to explode. For many reasons really. But primarily because A) I’m working feverishly to finish up my timeline for my very large wedding this weekend while ensuring that the TWO additional weddings we have going on this weekend are taken care of by my staff and B) because Little Man is currently sitting in his playpen next to me in my office and has all three of his musical toys playing at once. Yes, I’m simultaneously listening to the ABC’s sung by a stuffed dog, a Mozart classical piece playing on a music box and a song about squares being sung by a stuffed lion.

I mean, I love that my kid loves music. But, please son!

I wish I had more time for a thoughtful blog post this week but it’s just not in the cards right now.

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

Gettin’ All Personal and Stuff

It’s no secret that praise & worship is a major passion of mine. Singing, leading, participating, etc. – all of it!! And some of my most intimate times with the Lord are had during times of spontaneous worship whether I am the one singing the lyrics or listening to somebody else – whether in a public church service or on my own driving in the car.

As I was scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed this morning I came across a video from a Bethel worship service that was showcasing a recent spontaneous moment of worship. The words were simple, yet powerful enough to give me pause to take it all in: “This is the love that changes everything. He gives it freely.”

Often times we, in our selfish human nature, get so caught up in trying to be the best version of ourselves. We chase after our “destiny” instead of chasing after Him. We seek our “purpose” instead of finding our true purpose in Him. And I think praise & worship affords us the great opportunity of laying OURSELVES down and lifting HIM up. While earthly praise & worship will always be flawed to some degree because we are flawed humans, it is the purest form of God-seeking that I believe exists in the current church.

On a very personal note, there was a period of time not long after Little Man was born when I feared I wouldn’t be back on that stage participating in the praise & worship team. Which, I know, it really shouldn’t matter if I’m on stage singing or in the congregation. But, there’s a certain excitement and fulfillment that comes from being a part of something that you feel called to do!

We were in the middle of a difficult time of transitioning between churches: leaving one church that we had called home and served faithfully in for over 12 years. When that happens you begin to doubt your gut – that thing that told you it was time to move on. But, it’s just like God, to prove himself in a beautifully orchestrated way. We didn’t “shop” for a new church. We had one place we wanted to try and beyond that we had absolutely NO IDEA where else we would go if this place didn’t work out.

Thankfully, it just clicked. Not just that we enjoyed the service and the people, but the timing! Oh, how, perfect God’s timing was for this transition. The Husband and I, unknowingly, came into this new body of believers right in the midst of their own transition on the praise & worship team. This transition left us with an opportunity to jump in with both feet and get involved without delay. The Husband started playing guitar and I joined the vocals team. Since joining this team I have been privileged to be a part of some of the most powerful worship services of my entire life. There’s something about a room full of people all lifting up their praise to Jesus that gives me the chills. And those “chills” are my cue that the Spirit is moving and that song that’s stirring in my heart needs to be sung.

I suppose my encouragement to anyone reading this is to trust your “gut”. Sometimes it’s hard to hear His voice so we do what we think He is telling us to do. But I’m here to tell you that when He wants you to move in a certain direction He will find a way to get you there. The details of why we left our old church home don’t matter. That place will ALWAYS hold a very special place in our hearts and there are people there that we will never stop missing! But, the beauty in the newness of where we are now is refreshing and inspiring and has awakened things in both The Husband and I that have laid dormant for quite some time. Some we never knew were there in the first place.

We are exactly where we need to be: chasing after and seeking HIM and fulfilling our calling in the process.

And, just to be sure we get some Mompreneur stuff in this post, let me clarify that being a part of the praise & worship team is no easy task for a working/business-owning momma. On wedding weekends I work late, sometimes not getting home until 1 or 2 am on Saturday night. But I’m still up by 6:30 to get ready for church, feed Little Man and get him ready, and leave the house in time to be at church by 8:30 for rehearsal. Then it’s rehearsal time where I’m desperately hoping Little Man will catnap in the Ergo…most of the time he does. I drop him in the church nursery before service starts and then I go back to get him after praise & worship ends so that I can nurse him. I wouldn’t have it any other way!

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Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

Mompreneur Tale: Volume 1

There’s nothing quite like your 9 month old son getting his first bloody nose by launching himself into the edge of your desk while you’re on a phone call with a client.

Here’s the scene….

I answer a phone call from my bride for this weekend. Side Note: I rarely answer phone calls while my son is awake…this story just proves why…but exceptions are made when the bride calling is getting married in 48 hours.

While she and I are talking on speakerphone I hear a big thump and I turn to see Little Man face planted into the bottom lip/edge of my desk. As expected, I had about 2 seconds of eery silence as I waited for the ear piercing cry that was about to ensue. I tried to reach my mute button on my phone in time but I failed.

As a mom and a business owner you suffer with that mental tug of war between being heartbroken that your child is hurt but also embarrassment that a client was caught in the cross hairs to be a witness. So, I rushed to get her off the phone by telling her I’d call her back in a few minutes. She heard the crying. I’m certain she understood. But still, the businesswoman in me hates that I had to do that.

As I picked Little Man up, I notice his nose is bleeding. This must have been some fall, I tell ya!

Five minutes later, Little Man is hardly phased. But GOD FORBID I try to clean the dried blood from his face. Good grief kid!!

I called my bride back within a few minutes while Little Man sat on my lap with his paci in his mouth, still sniffling from the remnant tears. Life goes on, right?

Anyway, that’s my textbook Mompreneur moment of the day. What a crazy life we lead!

And now the kid doesn’t want to be anywhere except on my lap which makes writing blog posts very hard as he’s constantly reaching for the keyboard.

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P.S. I’m anticipating many more tales like this to come. Look for Volume 2 to be posted sooner rather than later.

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

When It Rains, It Pours

I could say I mean this literally considering the amount of rain and bad weather Oklahoma has gotten recently. But, for the sake of this blog post, I’m talking figuratively.

Where shall I begin?

…my business email is only functioning at about 50% right now

…my outdoor wedding this weekend is having to be restructured due to recent and impending rain (pair this with the email issue and you might catch a glimpse of my current state of frustration!!)

Shall I go on?

…I am struggling with a head cold

…which I have now passed on to Little Man

…to make matters worse, Little Man is teething

…therefore, Little Man is sleeping minimally

Can somebody please pass me an adult beverage laced with Nyquil? Nevermind, I’m breastfeeding. Sigh.

That is all, my friends. That. Is. All.

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

When The Husband’s Away…

It took me a few days but I think I’ve finally recovered from my first wedding back this past weekend! It was as long of a day as I remembered from my pre-baby wedding days. The proof is in the leg work (I think it’s obvious which day was the wedding day)…

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But, it did feel good to be back. Except for the part where I forgot the boob attachment pieces for my pump so I couldn’t pump. Yyyeeeaaaahhhh…no bueno. I went over 12 hours between feedings/pumps that day. Never again. Never. Again.

Moving on.

Little Man and I did get in a really good nap time together on Sunday afternoon which was refreshing especially since he doesn’t usually sleep well when he’s not in his crib. But he actually snuggled with me for a nap in my bed for 1.5 hours!!! Then we all got up and had a wedding to attend for one of The Husband’s co-workers. It’s not often I get to be a guest at a wedding.

I don’t think I’ve introduced you to The Husband yet…

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The Husband was out of town on business yesterday and overnight last night so it was Little Man and I on our own. I already had plans to head down the highway for a few site visits I had scheduled for an out-of-state of bride. So, Little Man and I had a little road trip together. I know I won’t have the freedom to let him tag along with me to meetings much longer since he’s probably just a matter of weeks away from crawling. I guess I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it.

It is nice, on occasion, to have an evening completely to myself. It’s just in my DNA – I absolutely LOVE alone time!! So I got Little Man down for bed and then I had some pizza, diet coke and I veg’d on the couch while eating a really-bad-for-you dessert. Because sometimes you just have to, right? It was glorious indeed.

Today, back to the daily grind.

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma