Finding My Way Back…

I’ve been on “maternity leave” for almost 10 weeks now. I put the term maternity leave in quotations because being an entrepreneur doesn’t really grant you all of the perks that one might want or expect. Business has continued, thanks to my amazing team!! But, I still have to stay on top of the office stuff like payroll, emails, balancing the business account, etc. all while taking care of 2 kids under 2.

This weekend, I’ll be back to work at a wedding. While I’m not working the whole day because my staff has EVERYTHING covered, the few hours I’ll be on-site requires quite a bit of planning. Primarily, my extreme hatred of pumping means I’m working my hours around Baby Girl’s feeding times – thank goodness for an eating schedule that keeps me sane!!!!

So, I’ll pump once before I leave the house so The Husband will have a bottle to feed her while I’m gone and I’ll be back by the time she’s due to eat again. I’ll help with dinner and bedtime and then I’ll go back to the wedding to work a few hours during the reception.

Yes – I hate pumping! Although, I’ve somehow still ended up with over 600oz of pumped milk in my freezer. LOL

I’m really excited about this wedding. It’s a bride I’ve been working with for over a year. She and her mom were so gracious and understanding when I found out I was pregnant late last summer. My due date meant I would not be able to commit to being available for their wedding day and I’d have to hand off the planning torch to one of my staff to take over once baby came. They were so great about the whole arrangement and things have gone so well. My Associate Consultant, Whitney, has just killed it!!! So many fun things in store for this wedding and I’m so excited it’s going to work out for me to be there at least for the few hours that I can to see everything come together.

I’d like to dream more about this wedding at the moment but I can’t because Little Man is desperate to go play outside and I’ve got laundry to fold. How can I do both at the same time, you might say? Well, that’s because I have no shame folding my laundry on the driveway…underwear and all. Multitasking at it’s finest.

I also need to meal plan for the week and find time to get to the grocery store today. But that will have to come later…

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

Weaning. Glorious Weaning.

Committing to breastfeeding Little Man to 1 year was huge. If I’m being honest, time has flown by. I mean, I can not believe he turns 1 in less than 2 weeks. It’s been a whirlwind of a year and I’m beyond grateful that I was blessed with the ability and time to be able to breastfeed him this long. I had to start supplementing with formula around 9.5 months old when my freezer stash ran out. But, even still, the vast majority of his liquid intake has been mommy milk and I’m proud of that accomplishment.

But, let’s be real, I’m so ready to be done. About a month ago I started to develop a love/hate relationship with nursing. It was very similar to the love/hate relationship I had with nursing in the early weeks of his life. But this time was different. I loved giving him this precious milk but nursing had grown a bit uncomfortable – 4 teeth equals nursing challenges (ouch!).

As of last week, the weaning process has begun. I am now down to nursing only in the morning when he wakes up and then pumping before I go to bed. That morning nursing session will be the last to go, but still, I’m looking forward to that first morning where I can continue sleeping while The Husband gets up and gives Little Man breakfast – I can’t even fathom what freedom I will feel on that beautiful day!

It’s been a journey. I’ve learned A LOT!!! Ultimately, I’ve determined that breastfeeding is one of the hardest and most rewarding things I’ve ever done. But, I am sad to tell all of you first-time-moms-to-be, NOBODY prepares you for the challenge of breastfeeding. I did my research before Little Man was born. I read books. I read blogs. Still, breastfeeding ended up being 1000000000x harder than I expected it to be and I began to fully understand why so many women give up in those first 2-3 months (or less!). While there is no shame in formula-feeding, I do wholeheartedly believe that so many women give up too soon on breastfeeding simply because they aren’t adequately prepared for the challenge and reality of it all.

So, if you’re reading this and you are a first-time-mom-to-be, I want to encourage you: YOU CAN DO IT!! Power through those first 3 months and I promise you it gets easier. And when I say easier I mean SOOOOO MUCH EASIER!!! Between 3months and 10months old, I absolutely LOVED nursing. And, by that time, I was so close to my 1 year goal that I just pressed on even when it began to get uncomfortable.

I wish there was more honesty out there about the challenge of breastfeeding. I could go on but I don’t have all night. I have to pump and then I’m hitting the sack early!

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

Baby-Free Celebrating!!!!

A working mom really welcomes any excuse to enjoy some social activities without a baby in tow. So, this past weekend, I was able to attend a Bachelorette Party for a close friend. I’m also a bridesmaid in her wedding this coming weekend. I’m talking about nearly 24 hours of FREE time to get gussied up, eat dinner and socialize with girlfriends.

Oh, what a glorious time it was!!! Major props to The Husband for being on Little Man duty from 3pm on Saturday till 2pm on Sunday. These duties included getting up and headed to church on Sunday morning with Little Man in tow all by himself…no easy task!!

The Bachelorette Party festivities included all us girls wearing our favorite little black dress and a neon-colored wig for a night out on the town. Then an all-girl slumber party in a hotel suite downtown. And things wrapped up with a relaxing yoga session on Sunday morning before we all parted ways. *throw a couple of pumping sessions into the mix*

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The wigs definitely got us noticed wherever we went which made the evening so much more fun. We must have had over a dozen strangers request to take a picture with us!!

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Good times were had by all. But, Monday brought me back to reality as the workload hit. The Husband and I are both in the wedding this weekend and we are performing a song at the ceremony – lots to prepare and get ready for Saturday. I think a mani/pedi is in order 😉

Then I have a wedding next weekend that I’m beginning to finalize details for. After my wedding on the 8th I have my longest break since my maternity leave. Just in time for Little Man’s first birthday….are you kidding me?!?!

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

The 11th Commandment

Thous shalt sleep! <—-Don’t we wish God had included this for us tired working mommas? Perhaps, then, we wouldn’t feel so guilty for collapsing in bed whilst the house remains a mess in one way or another.

This past weekend has always been a big one for my family. The Husband and I have our anniversary on May 8th which often coincides with Mother’s Day Weekend. Speaking of that, it was my first Mother’s Day!!

On Friday we both took a 1/2 day off of work to celebrate our anniversary. We started by getting up early and going to breakfast with Little Man. Then we came home and got him down for a good nap while we tied up some loose ends in our respective jobs. Then we spent the afternoon as a family at the zoo.

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Can we talk about the awesomeness of baby-wearing for a minute?! I don’t wear Little Man crazy often…just when it’s necessary for convenience. But, when he’s sick of the stroller and it’s nap time and you’re nowhere near his crib, the Ergo is a God-send!! I may not have gotten his usual 75-90 minute nap out of him but 10 minutes against my chest and he was out like a light for a quick 20 minute power nap – just enough to take away the crankiness. 

After the zoo, we loaded Little Man up and dropped him off at the grandparents’ house for a sleepover. The Husband and I had big plans for a nice dinner out and then going to a movie (which we pre-purchased our tickets for).

Dinner was great. Too great! We both got in the car after leaving the restaurant and just sighed in exhaustion. Now, it probably didn’t help that I had 2 lemon drop martinis with dinner but, we were celebrating! Nonetheless, we were totally lame and went and got our movie tickets refunded and headed home…to SLEEP!!! No joke, we were in bed by 8:10. I had to wake up at 9:30pm to pump but I was right back to bed by 10pm.

How is it that having children is so exhausting? People, I have a baby that has been sleeping through the night since he was 12 weeks old. I know, I know…some of you probably hate me for saying that 🙂 But, seriously, he sleeps 11-12 hours on his own every night. So, I wonder why I’m this tired. I feel guilty for being this tired when my baby sleeps as much as he does. Especially since I go to bed myself at a decent hour (10-11pm) most nights. But, being a mom, I just accept that this is the way it is. The day in, day out of caring for him, attending to his needs, entertaining him, feeding him, you name it – It’s easy for us to forget that mental exhaustion is REAL! And too much of it leads to physical exhaustion. I suppose there needs to be a balance so as to avoid this exhaustion. And being a working mom makes it really hard to find the right balance of exerting your mental capacity for your work and for your child without letting it take a toll on your body and, frankly, your marriage.

I’m not saying I have the answer. But, I am saying that I recognize this and am going to try better. So that maybe next year when The Husband and I celebrate our anniversary we can manage to stay awake long enough to watch a movie together!

I think part of the solution is building in time to our day to do something for ourselves. Even if it’s just 30 minutes to take a hot bath or to sit on the back porch and read a book. Sometimes this really helps me relax and, in turn, makes me a better wife, mother and business owner. I just need to get better at making time for this on a daily basis. Here’s hoping!

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

When The Husband’s Away…

It took me a few days but I think I’ve finally recovered from my first wedding back this past weekend! It was as long of a day as I remembered from my pre-baby wedding days. The proof is in the leg work (I think it’s obvious which day was the wedding day)…

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But, it did feel good to be back. Except for the part where I forgot the boob attachment pieces for my pump so I couldn’t pump. Yyyeeeaaaahhhh…no bueno. I went over 12 hours between feedings/pumps that day. Never again. Never. Again.

Moving on.

Little Man and I did get in a really good nap time together on Sunday afternoon which was refreshing especially since he doesn’t usually sleep well when he’s not in his crib. But he actually snuggled with me for a nap in my bed for 1.5 hours!!! Then we all got up and had a wedding to attend for one of The Husband’s co-workers. It’s not often I get to be a guest at a wedding.

I don’t think I’ve introduced you to The Husband yet…

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The Husband was out of town on business yesterday and overnight last night so it was Little Man and I on our own. I already had plans to head down the highway for a few site visits I had scheduled for an out-of-state of bride. So, Little Man and I had a little road trip together. I know I won’t have the freedom to let him tag along with me to meetings much longer since he’s probably just a matter of weeks away from crawling. I guess I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it.

It is nice, on occasion, to have an evening completely to myself. It’s just in my DNA – I absolutely LOVE alone time!! So I got Little Man down for bed and then I had some pizza, diet coke and I veg’d on the couch while eating a really-bad-for-you dessert. Because sometimes you just have to, right? It was glorious indeed.

Today, back to the daily grind.

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

Ready or Not

This weekend will be my first wedding weekend since July 25th of last year. While I’m so thankful for an amazing staff that managed all of Erica Weddings clients in my absence and for all the quality time I’ve had with my Little Man, this day came even quicker than I had imagined.

And, just like old times (i.e. pre-baby!), my office kicked in to high-gear this week in preparation for tomorrow. Little Man spent a lot of play time like this while his momma worked.

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I don’t like doing this during his wake time a lot but when you’re back to the grind sometimes you just have to do what you have to do to get things done. Side note: please ignore the disaster area that is my office!! I need to do some serious cleaning in here but who’s got time for that?

So, tomorrow I will head out the door around 1pm leaving Little Man in The Husband’s care for the whole day. I’ll spend the day outside in this gorgeous weather we are having. I’ll be helping a sweet bride & groom with the most exciting day of their lives. I’ll pump and then I’ll watch the bride walk down the aisle. I’ll watch the happy couple share their first dance and then I’ll pump. I’ll watch their guests party it out on the dance floor and then I’ll pump. Do you see a pattern here? Oh how my life has changed! And then the night will end and I’ll get home around 1am knowing full well the beating that my body took that day. And, finally, I’ll wake up at 6:30am with full boobs and a full body ache. I’ll get ready for church then wake Little Man up. And, with any luck, he’ll take a nice long nap that afternoon when we get home so I can catch up on my rest and put my feet up.

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

Houston…We Have Milk

I suppose the title should say Tulsa instead of Houston. I don’t live in Houston. I didn’t travel home through Houston. I’m getting off-track here…

I’ve returned home from our glorious 5-day vacation in Riviera Maya, Cancun with my breast milk 🙂

While I do believe the resort lost about 20 oz. of my milk, I’m not up in arms about it. I still came home with about 90 oz. of milk that is now stashed in my freezer and I’m confident my breastfeeding journey can continue for a few months to come because of it. For that, I am grateful.

It was a lot of work keeping up with pumping while enjoying an all-inclusive resort vacation. I mean, who wants to leave the beach to go pump in their hotel room? I didn’t want to, but I did.

Major props go to our personal concierge for being so nice about storing all of my pumped milk in the restaurant fridge for me. The mini-bar fridge, obviously, was not big enough so he came running whenever I called him so he could take it to the restaurant kitchen. God bless that sweet young man!!!!

Traveling home with 90 oz. of breast milk in tow was nerve-wracking to say the least. When I got all of my milk back from the restaurant as we were packing to leave I noticed they had stored it in the freezer instead of the fridge. So now I was faced with the task of keeping it frozen in transport. And, of course, the missing 20 oz.-ish was a little frustrating but, again, not the end of the world.

As I approached the security checkpoint in the Cancun Airport, my stomach was in knots. It was at least 100 times leading up to that spot that I read/heard (signs, intercom announcements, baggage check-in personnel, etc.) to discard of all liquids over the 3.4 oz. limit. While putting my belongings on the conveyor belt to be scanned I motioned for the security guard to come to me. As I read in the TSA instructions to do, I alerted him that the bag I was holding was full of pumped breast milk for my baby. Of course, he barely spoke English so we had a little difficulty back and forth before he understood. I think my hand gestures signifying “baby” (cradling arms) and “breast milk” (grabbing my boobs) really helped out here. Although, they may have looked a bit bizarre to any on-lookers.

I walked through the scanner and awaited the security team’s next move. The same guard came back to me and asked me where my baby was – another thing I had heard was a common question from security in traveling with pumped milk. I told him politely that my baby was home with grandma and grandpa.

My milk made it through the scanner and a different security guard brought the bag back to me and said he was going to have to look inside. Fine. I expected this. He dug around a bit – destroying my beautifully organized placement of milk to ice pack ratio but now wasn’t the time to throw a fit about that. LOL. He then called over the security supervisor. They spoke to each other back and forth in Spanish for a bit. I didn’t recognize a word of what they were saying except “leche”. But the supervisor gave me the go-ahead and I was on my way. WHEW!!! I’ve never been so relieved in my life!!!

I’m really thankful for this experience because it has given me full confidence in my option to travel in the years to come when I have a nursing baby at home. Something that I had previously thought would be impossible – or, at the very least, not worth the hassle.

On a related note, I’m so happy to be home with my little man! My heart ached for him while we were gone. Especially the last 2 days of our trip. I am at peace today. We’ve nursed. We’ve played. We’ve ran errands together. And he’s been all smiles the whole time.

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Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma