Bueller? Bueller?

I’ve often used this throwback phrase around some younger friends. Many of whom look at me wide-eyed with confusion. Suddenly, I feel a million years old. But…I digress…

I’ve been an absentee blogger for the past few months. My sincere apologies! But let me catch you up. We survived a chaotic holiday season with lots of family visits, yummy food and Christmas gift excitement. This even included a horrid week where the entire household, starting with yours truly, caught a nasty bug. Lots of puking going on at our place for several days. I’ll tell you what, being pregnant and violently puking is no bueno.

I also completed my last wedding before Baby #2 gets here. It was on New Year’s Eve. It seemed appropriate to go out with a bang and we certainly did. It was a crazy long day (about 16 hours) made even more challenging by being 27 weeks pregnant. Let’s just say I had the worst wedding hangover I’ve ever had the next day. It was touch and go there for a while. Would I ever walk again? Only time would tell.

In other news, Baby #2 is still cooking away and we found out that IT’S A GIRL!!! This pregnancy has been completely different from Little Man in so many ways. Ways that have ultimately left me more exhausted, physically spent and mentally drained at the end of each day. I’m just very thankful that this time around the latter part of my pregnancy falls during slow season so I can really take it easy.

But, I never “take it easy”. LOL. Who has time for that? You see, with Little Man, I had zero time for “nesting” because I was in my busy season towards the end of my pregnancy and then he surprised us all by showing up 4 weeks early anyway. So, I think I’m making up for lost “nesting” this time around. I’m in full force people!

The Husband and I have decided that we will remain in our current 3 bedroom, 2 bath house for at least another year before we begin shopping for a larger home. Given the fact that we are already busting at the seams as it is with our little family of 3, I’ve been on a mad mission to make sure every nook and cranny of this house is purged, organized and as efficient as possible so that not a single shelf is wasted. I’m 29 weeks pregnant and I’ve tackled about 50% of the home organization projects I’m aiming to complete before Baby Girl gets here.

I’m really bad about taking before and after pics but I did snap these earlier this week when I spent 2 days purging and organizing our master closet. As has become practice in recent weeks, I stood and looked around at the disaster area (in this case, our master closet) and started brainstorming ideas to utilize the space better.

I’m a woman and I have purses. Many of them. I did get rid of a few but, many I really wanted to keep. But, I needed to find a better way to store them so that I could free up a VERY LARGE shelf to be used for other things. So, now every inch of wall space in our closet is being used for purse storage on command strip hangars. It looks so organized and pretty. And look at that glorious shelf that is just waiting to be used. It’s odd how good this feels!

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There was further closet organization that happened after I snapped these pics so it looks even cleaner and better than this. But the purse storage beauty was worth showing I think.

Here’s some family love for you all to enjoy. Little Man was being very “mommy clingy” this night so there was no hope in getting him to look at the camera.

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That’s all I’ve got for today. It’s way past this pregnant momma’s bedtime. I’ll be back soon. I promise.

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entreprenurmomma

When the Balance is Off

I had a near mompreneur breakdown on Saturday! Erica Weddings had 3 weddings this past weekend. My particular wedding was one of the most difficult weddings I had had in quite some time. For no reason really other than it was just a lot of details to manage. Plus, it was a Nigerian wedding which I had never done before so there was some added pressure and stress in that regard since there were so many elements that were completely new to me. On that note, I had spent many, many hours in the days leading up to the wedding working to prepare. More than I usually do.

Going in to Saturday I was already operating on a Little Man deficit – i.e. I had spent more time away from him over the previous 2 days than I had spent with him. So, about mid- Saturday, it hit me! I missed him like crazy and I knew I wouldn’t see him until Sunday morning. I texted The Husband and told him that I missed Little Man so much that I thought I could cry.

It’s moments like those that make me question my entire working mom status. Was the 16 hours on my feet (without eating and barely drinking anything, mind you), away from my husband and child, worth it? I got caught up in that for a bit but was forced to move on as the wedding moved on.

I don’t think those moments will ever stop coming. They are bound to hit me from time to time. And I keep reminding myself that this particular wedding was an exception to the rule. I don’t typically have to work 16 hours on a Saturday for my usual clientele.

So, Sunday and Monday was all about catching up on my rest and catching up on time with Little Man. We did our usual routine of a Sunday afternoon nap together. It’s pretty much the only time he’ll get somewhat snuggly with me and I just love it!

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And, as far as Monday, I did something I haven’t done in a very long time: I didn’t do a shred of work ALL DAY LONG!!! It meant a bigger to-do list for today but it was worth it.

It all comes back to that work vs. personal life balance that I’ve talked about before. I had let the temporary “imbalance” get to me. It takes a constant conscious effort to make it all work.

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

Embracing Imperfections

You know what really sucks about coming home from a vacation? Catching up on….well, everything!

Unpacking turns into 27 loads of laundry. Groceries are either non-existent or everything has expired. All that work that I said could wait until I got back now haunts my every waking moment.

All of my imperfections are slapping me in the face as I try to keep this household, this family and this business afloat.

Just breathe. Prioritize.

Side Note: Yesterday afternoon I realized that I hadn’t showered since Saturday. SATURDAY, people!!!  Immediate priority #1: personal hygiene. Sometimes us busy moms need to be reminded of this basic need.

It definitely takes good prioritization when you’re a working mom. But, I feel like a Stay-At-Home-Mompreneur requires prioritization to the maximum amount. And, despite my momentary lapse, I’ve always felt like I’ve done a pretty good job of prioritizing my life…at least when it comes to the big things.

The big picture of priorities in my life looks like this:

  1. God
  2. Husband
  3. Son
  4. Work

Now, within each of those pieces falls about a million tiny little tasks to accomplish on a daily basis. But, I’ve found that when I keep the big picture in focus, all the tiny pieces fall into place much easier.

The true struggle for Entrepreneurs is that we deal with the blessed curse of allowing our work to define us. It’s so easy for us to find our value and self-worth wrapped up in our businesses. Unfortunately, when this happens, everything suffers. Our familial and romantic relationships become secondary and, over time, can dwindle down to non-existent. Our health suffers due to lack of sleep and high amounts of stress. The list goes on. But what I realized a few years ago that was a game-changer for me is this:

Erica Weddings is what I do. Not who I am.

Who I am is an imperfect child of a perfect Savior, a wife and a mother. Just saying it is a weight lifted off of my shoulders.

Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely LOVE what I do and I’m blessed beyond measure to be able to do it. But if I let it take precedence over my God, my husband and my son, then I become tired, burnt out and resentful. I know this because, unfortunately, I’ve been there and I hope to never be there again.

So what does this prioritization tangibly look like day in and day out? For me, it’s waking up with my son around 7am and enjoying some time with him. The Husband may watch him for a bit before he goes to work and I’ll get a few things done around the house, reply to a few emails, etc. Once The Husband is gone then it’s Little Man and I against the world! When he is awake, I’m with him – soaking up every minute. When he naps, my butt kicks into high gear (showers, work, dishes, laundry, eating, cooking, etc.). And when The Husband gets home, work is done!!! He helps get us through our bedtime routine and Little Man goes down for bed around 7pm. Then The Husband and I have the whole evening to ourselves! We are usually just lazy couch bums but we like it that way!

You may look at everything I laid out above and see my priority list and wonder, “Where is God in all this?” I wonder that myself sometimes but I guess the answer is: God is IN everything I do, all day long! I squeeze in my quiet time whenever I can during the day and I’m singing praise & worship music pretty much all day every day. That’s one of the extraordinary things about Him: keeping Him #1 is so simple. All it takes is a genuine love and appreciation for who He is and what He’s done and you’re golden…you can’t help but meditate on His greatness.

No single day is perfect. Some days the laundry doesn’t get done. Some days my email inbox has one too many emails left unanswered at the end of the day. Some days (or 4 days in a row!!!) I forget to shower. Some days I get stuck on a phone call with a client and my son is stuck playing alone on the floor with his pacifier to keep him quiet.

Bottom line: I’m not perfect. But none of us are. So, we shouldn’t be too hard on ourselves. Thank God that His Son was perfect for us so we don’t have to be!

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma