Mompreneur Tale: Volume 2

It’s been a while since my last, an inaugural, Mompreneur Tale post. What I’m about to tell you happened a few weeks ago but it’s a great tale to tell, nonetheless.

Baby Girl, thankfully, is still little enough to be able to tag along with me to meetings sometimes. She’s content in her stroller and takes a bottle easily – this makes things easy when childcare plans don’t always pan out.

I had an afternoon of planned site visits with a mother-of-the-bride. Now, I’ll stop here for a moment. I always PREFER to be childless when meeting with clients for the sake of professionalism, no distractions, etc. But, in this case, I just didn’t have a choice. Plus, I’ve worked with this mother-of-the-bride before on her other daughter’s wedding a couple of years ago and she’s just wonderful. She loved having Baby Girl tag along.

I should also note that Baby Girl is to the point where she only poops once every 2-3 days. Furthermore, I can’t ever smell it and she doesn’t really have any typical “baby poop behavior” to alert me that a diaper change is in order LOL. Do you see where I’m going with this? Of course you do. I’ll continue…

Through 4 venues and car rides in between, Baby Girl stayed in her car seat and was just clicked in and out of her car base and stroller. I squeezed in a bottle feeding during this outing too. At the very end of our last site visit I decided to give her a little break from the car seat so I pick her up. Immediately, I felt it: poop blow out!!! It was on her shirt. It was on her pants. It was now on my arm.

Now I did what any professional woman would do in this scenario. I pretended the poop wasn’t there and I held her in a way that nobody could see the poop. So, while my client and the venue coordinator fawned over Baby Girl’s cuteness I was fiercely and speedily working out a plan in my head to get her back into her car seat without anybody seeing the poop all over her back side or the poop on my arm for that matter. Don’t ask me how I did it. I’m not even sure, if I’m being honest. But, somehow, I did it.

I finally ended up back at my car in the parking lot. My client was standing right there as we were discussing some details. I had no choice…Baby Girl needed a diaper change…BADLY!! I apologized to my client for having to do this but I was going to have to change this nasty diaper in front of her while we talk. She, of course, was just precious and totally understanding. After all, she is a mom herself 🙂

This diaper, you guys!! Let’s just say I kept my cool but I was going through an obscene amount of baby wipes and I had to take off all her clothes. It was bad. Like, really bad! All the while, I’m talking caterers and color scheming over my shoulder with my client.

This was just…one of those days!

To top it all off, Baby Girl had to ride home in the buff. At least her pretty headband managed to not get any poop on it. At least there’s that.

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This was a Mompreneur Tale for the books! I’m just thankful for wonderful clients who love having my babies around.

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

Behind the Scenes

This morning I made a post on social media showcasing my master multi-tasking capabilities. While the actual act of the said multi-tasking was real (submitting my company payroll report while simultaneously cooking Little Man’s breakfast), it dawned on me how misleading social media can be and how I am so guilty of posting things that make it look like I have it all together – things that make me appear to be some unicorn version of a wife/mom/business owner/domestic engineer who has every aspect of her life running so smoothly and according to plan. In reality, nothing could be farther from the truth.

So, here’s the ugly truth….

  • My office is a disaster area!! It’s been so messy for so long that I’m simply overwhelmed at the thought of cleaning/organizing it. So, I just ignore it instead and beg every guest in my home to just not look as they walk past.
  • I’m on week 3 of a consistent workout routine and it’s painfully obvious how out of shape I am. I have such a long way to go and I get easily discouraged because of that. I remember the days, sadly it was long before kids, when I was going to the gym 4+ times a week and having a blast doing spin classes, yoga classes and such. There’s no way I could make it 10 minutes in a spin class right now.
  • I drink too much diet coke.
  • My kitchen floors have not been cleaned since 2015. Gross!
  • I have no idea what I’m making for dinner tonight. 3 hours and counting to figure it out.
  • I’ve procrastinated on my 2016 revenue/expense reporting for my business. As in, I haven’t done any of it yet! I’ve got a long project ahead of me whenever I get the motivation and energy to tackle that.

…just to name a few.

I’m not perfect. I’m enormously imperfect.

My hope is always to be better in my business, at home, as a wife and as a mom. Every day is a new day to make the decision to try to be better. Some days I do better than others. As of this moment, my office is still a mess, I got my workout in, I drank too much diet coke for today, kitchen floors are still dirty, I’m about to make plans for dinner and the business accounting stuff is pushed to another day – so, today is just so-so.

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

Double the Fun!

Where have I been, you might be wondering? Well I’ve been busy doing the bare minimum in terms of productivity on all fronts: domestic, business, wife-ing, mothering, etc.

So, why no blogging? Well that’s because I’ve been sick as a dog with baby number two!! That’s right. We are expecting again 🙂

We are thrilled!! But I did not experience this sickness and crummy feeling in the first trimester with Little Man so it’s really slowed me down these past several weeks. As I’m about to enter my 14th week, I’m really hoping that the 2nd trimester brings good sleep and a good appetite and that the sickness subsides. Here’s hoping…

Here’s our fun pregnancy announcement that we shared on social media earlier this week…

Photo Credit: Andrea Murphy Photography
Photo Credit: Andrea Murphy Photography

Now the truth behind this photo:

We were taking family photos and throwing in some 12 month pictures of Little Man at the same time. And when we found out we were expecting again then we had to do some sort of fun announcement so I made this cute little sign. We got him all posed and content and then he reached for a nearby acorn on the ground. Of course, it went straight into his mouth when The Husband rushed in and clawed it out!! Then, this face!! Snap, snap, click, click. It was perfect! LOL

So, that’s where I’m at right now. Hoping to feel better soon so I can start feeling like I’m a contributing member to this society again.

Until next time Mommas! 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

The 11th Commandment

Thous shalt sleep! <—-Don’t we wish God had included this for us tired working mommas? Perhaps, then, we wouldn’t feel so guilty for collapsing in bed whilst the house remains a mess in one way or another.

This past weekend has always been a big one for my family. The Husband and I have our anniversary on May 8th which often coincides with Mother’s Day Weekend. Speaking of that, it was my first Mother’s Day!!

On Friday we both took a 1/2 day off of work to celebrate our anniversary. We started by getting up early and going to breakfast with Little Man. Then we came home and got him down for a good nap while we tied up some loose ends in our respective jobs. Then we spent the afternoon as a family at the zoo.

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Can we talk about the awesomeness of baby-wearing for a minute?! I don’t wear Little Man crazy often…just when it’s necessary for convenience. But, when he’s sick of the stroller and it’s nap time and you’re nowhere near his crib, the Ergo is a God-send!! I may not have gotten his usual 75-90 minute nap out of him but 10 minutes against my chest and he was out like a light for a quick 20 minute power nap – just enough to take away the crankiness. 

After the zoo, we loaded Little Man up and dropped him off at the grandparents’ house for a sleepover. The Husband and I had big plans for a nice dinner out and then going to a movie (which we pre-purchased our tickets for).

Dinner was great. Too great! We both got in the car after leaving the restaurant and just sighed in exhaustion. Now, it probably didn’t help that I had 2 lemon drop martinis with dinner but, we were celebrating! Nonetheless, we were totally lame and went and got our movie tickets refunded and headed home…to SLEEP!!! No joke, we were in bed by 8:10. I had to wake up at 9:30pm to pump but I was right back to bed by 10pm.

How is it that having children is so exhausting? People, I have a baby that has been sleeping through the night since he was 12 weeks old. I know, I know…some of you probably hate me for saying that 🙂 But, seriously, he sleeps 11-12 hours on his own every night. So, I wonder why I’m this tired. I feel guilty for being this tired when my baby sleeps as much as he does. Especially since I go to bed myself at a decent hour (10-11pm) most nights. But, being a mom, I just accept that this is the way it is. The day in, day out of caring for him, attending to his needs, entertaining him, feeding him, you name it – It’s easy for us to forget that mental exhaustion is REAL! And too much of it leads to physical exhaustion. I suppose there needs to be a balance so as to avoid this exhaustion. And being a working mom makes it really hard to find the right balance of exerting your mental capacity for your work and for your child without letting it take a toll on your body and, frankly, your marriage.

I’m not saying I have the answer. But, I am saying that I recognize this and am going to try better. So that maybe next year when The Husband and I celebrate our anniversary we can manage to stay awake long enough to watch a movie together!

I think part of the solution is building in time to our day to do something for ourselves. Even if it’s just 30 minutes to take a hot bath or to sit on the back porch and read a book. Sometimes this really helps me relax and, in turn, makes me a better wife, mother and business owner. I just need to get better at making time for this on a daily basis. Here’s hoping!

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma

Embracing Imperfections

You know what really sucks about coming home from a vacation? Catching up on….well, everything!

Unpacking turns into 27 loads of laundry. Groceries are either non-existent or everything has expired. All that work that I said could wait until I got back now haunts my every waking moment.

All of my imperfections are slapping me in the face as I try to keep this household, this family and this business afloat.

Just breathe. Prioritize.

Side Note: Yesterday afternoon I realized that I hadn’t showered since Saturday. SATURDAY, people!!!  Immediate priority #1: personal hygiene. Sometimes us busy moms need to be reminded of this basic need.

It definitely takes good prioritization when you’re a working mom. But, I feel like a Stay-At-Home-Mompreneur requires prioritization to the maximum amount. And, despite my momentary lapse, I’ve always felt like I’ve done a pretty good job of prioritizing my life…at least when it comes to the big things.

The big picture of priorities in my life looks like this:

  1. God
  2. Husband
  3. Son
  4. Work

Now, within each of those pieces falls about a million tiny little tasks to accomplish on a daily basis. But, I’ve found that when I keep the big picture in focus, all the tiny pieces fall into place much easier.

The true struggle for Entrepreneurs is that we deal with the blessed curse of allowing our work to define us. It’s so easy for us to find our value and self-worth wrapped up in our businesses. Unfortunately, when this happens, everything suffers. Our familial and romantic relationships become secondary and, over time, can dwindle down to non-existent. Our health suffers due to lack of sleep and high amounts of stress. The list goes on. But what I realized a few years ago that was a game-changer for me is this:

Erica Weddings is what I do. Not who I am.

Who I am is an imperfect child of a perfect Savior, a wife and a mother. Just saying it is a weight lifted off of my shoulders.

Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely LOVE what I do and I’m blessed beyond measure to be able to do it. But if I let it take precedence over my God, my husband and my son, then I become tired, burnt out and resentful. I know this because, unfortunately, I’ve been there and I hope to never be there again.

So what does this prioritization tangibly look like day in and day out? For me, it’s waking up with my son around 7am and enjoying some time with him. The Husband may watch him for a bit before he goes to work and I’ll get a few things done around the house, reply to a few emails, etc. Once The Husband is gone then it’s Little Man and I against the world! When he is awake, I’m with him – soaking up every minute. When he naps, my butt kicks into high gear (showers, work, dishes, laundry, eating, cooking, etc.). And when The Husband gets home, work is done!!! He helps get us through our bedtime routine and Little Man goes down for bed around 7pm. Then The Husband and I have the whole evening to ourselves! We are usually just lazy couch bums but we like it that way!

You may look at everything I laid out above and see my priority list and wonder, “Where is God in all this?” I wonder that myself sometimes but I guess the answer is: God is IN everything I do, all day long! I squeeze in my quiet time whenever I can during the day and I’m singing praise & worship music pretty much all day every day. That’s one of the extraordinary things about Him: keeping Him #1 is so simple. All it takes is a genuine love and appreciation for who He is and what He’s done and you’re golden…you can’t help but meditate on His greatness.

No single day is perfect. Some days the laundry doesn’t get done. Some days my email inbox has one too many emails left unanswered at the end of the day. Some days (or 4 days in a row!!!) I forget to shower. Some days I get stuck on a phone call with a client and my son is stuck playing alone on the floor with his pacifier to keep him quiet.

Bottom line: I’m not perfect. But none of us are. So, we shouldn’t be too hard on ourselves. Thank God that His Son was perfect for us so we don’t have to be!

Until next time Mommas 🙂

~entrepreneurmomma